I didn’t adopt her. I didn’t buy her from a pet shop. I didn’t find her astray. I didn’t even know I would like her, let alone love her, but now she’s mine. And her name is Alice.
She became mine by permission of her kitty daddy. Before I loved her, he loved her. When she was afraid of every living creature with hands and feet, he cared for her and patiently waited for her trust. When she refused to be touched, let alone seen, he still fed her and waited. When I finally met her, she was still a deeply damaged being, but her heart was open and she was loved.
He adopted her. He rescued her. He loved her.
And I inherited the beautiful result.
Now I get to call her mine, but most days, I feel like I’m hers. When the sun has just risen and I should be irritated to be woken, I find myself eager to be nudged by that nose and move over in bed so she can perch in her spot. When I’m furiously typing, stressed about finishing a script and she sits on my keyboard, I never move her. Instead, I put my hand on her warm back and she reminds me that life is simpler than I make it. When I find myself running late, I still feel the need to turn down her hallway and say, “see you soon, baby girl.”
She adopted me. She rescued me. She loved me.
And I am so lucky.
I have long believed that the best treasures are not the several hundred dollar toys or handbags or jeans or even the video games. The things that always improve my mood on a bad day are the smallest of pleasures.
Here’s a few of my guaranteed favorites… they always feel like a bright light on a cloudy day:
An air plant ($2 and up depending on the size and shape… a delightful a phenomena of horticultural science I can’t get nearly enough of)
LEGO Blind Bag Mini Figures ($3.99)
Ridiculous socks ($1.49)
A new art print (Lots of under $5 options on Etsy, but I love this vintage coral for only $2.49)
Kinder’s Happy Hippo Biscuits ($4.49 for 8)
FoxGram’s Instagram Magnets ($2 each)
So my bad day is on its way to being brighter… what are your favorite cheapo methods for getting over a crappy afternoon?
Editor’s note: At Being Geek Chic, we believe being a geek and being a chic woman can be synonymous. When Gemma asked if she could provide her top tips for feeling like a fab geek, well, we had to oblige. Thanks, Gemma, for your excellent guest post!
Low self-esteem is something which can affect all of us at some point in our lives. Everyone has ‘bad days’ where we don’t quite feel our best, especially if you find your nerd status causes people to treat you differently. But it’s not always a love of Harry Potter that causes the problem. (Actually, that’s never the problem…)
Sometimes the issue is more deep-rooted and can have an impact on our career and relationships. However, there are lots of things you can do to boost your confidence and achieve all the things you want to in life. (While still being a nerd, of course!)
There are no quick-fix solutions and the process can be a long one, but here’s my nerd-friendly guide to feeling fabulous:
1. Surround yourself with other nerds who make you feel happy.
Making sure you spend time with people who appreciate you and make you feel good about yourself can be an important part of our feeling of self-worth. There’s no point hanging out with someone who puts you down or makes you feel insecure about yourself. Sometimes all it takes is a friend to tell you how great you are looking to give you confidence boost throughout the day. (Especially if that friend says things like: You’re as smart as Hermione and as beautiful as Arwen.)
If you’re feeling down, try visualising yourself through the eyes of a loved one and pick up all the good points they see in you.
2. Make some “me” time to enjoy the things you love.
Yeah, sometimes grown up life sucks. Work and family responsibilities can make it difficult to make time for yourself. However, little things like taking yourself on a shopping trip for some new geeky tees or getting a tough new haircut can really improve your confidence levels. Try hitting the gym for a boost of endorphins. It’s science! And those happy chemicals will make you feel better about yourself.
3. Don’t spend time on the dark side. Or, just eliminate negativity.
Sometimes negativity can come from other people (those people suck), but more often than not, we imprint negativity on ourselves. Try to adopt a mantra of positivity (like your own personal patronus), which you can take with you through your day. This may be difficult at first but there are lots of self-help guides online about improving confidence which are available to make this easier. A happy Weasley approach to life is likely to bring you more success and happiness than one which is filled with negativity.
Guest post by Gemma Collier is a mum of one and lover of all things vintage. She works part-time as a personal shopper, but when she’s not working she loves writing, playing dress-up with her little girl and curling up with a good book. She also loves to play games on bgo.com
Sometimes animated imagery is all you need to feel better about Monday. Or any day really. So here’s some kick ass reminders that sometimes life (and people) are surprisingly awesome.
3. Lauren Conrad’s Favorite Position:
2. Catwoman’s Real Talk:
On this topic, can we all give some love to A Hathaway for pulling off a seriously kick ass catwoman? I know it’s old news, but as I was hunting for this gif I was reminded all over again. I loved it. I’d really love a solo film, Nolan. Please?
1. BMO Dancing
Because hello… adorable?
Meet Katie Lee. She’s a change coach and lifestyle designer who “helps people tackle the tangible aspects of everyday life.” She’s also our first 2014 Lady Geek of the Week.
As the owner of The Small Change Project, Lee works with women (and the occasional man) to make small lifestyle changes that minimize frustration, maximize happiness, and achieve goals. Jonesing to dive deep, examine your current situation and implement small, clear next steps to get the day you’ve been dreaming about? With a completely unbiased, non-judgmental perspective, Lee is your gal.
Ready to fully take the plunge and mold your life into the one you dream about? Introducing the first ever Lifestyle Design Camp. Join Lee, her pal Jina Schaefer of The Happy Healthy Truth, and a community of like-minded women for a two day camp that gives you the opportunity to step away from your daily grind, get rooted in what matters most and develop a plan to act on it. Will you be in Minnesota February 1-2? Register for the Lifestyle Design Camp here.
Follow Lee on Twitter and Instagram @KtL33. And read on for her interview with Being Geek Chic! You’ll find her advice to her 13-year-old self, how she happened upon this career path, and where she finds her inspiration.
Q: How did you discover your passion?
A: I have always been a systems thinker and an organizer. My idea of “playing” when I was a child was rearranging my room. So it wasn’t so much that I discovered my passion as I was finally able to identify my natural abilities as an adult. I’ve had many jobs while moving around the country with my husband. In each of them I did a lot of reorganizing and strategic planning. I always wondered why “they didn’t do this before” because it seemed like I had the solution to their problems and it wasn’t that hard. It wasn’t until I had the itch to start my own company that I realized that clarity wasn’t something everyone had. It took some quiet time, research and a little soul searching for me to figure out my natural ability is also what lights me up the most. I love solving problems and giving advice to help people live and work better. And now I get paid for it. It’s pretty sweet.
Q: Where do you find inspiration in life?
A: I consume information all day everyday. I love learning! I’m on too many email lists to count and I’m constantly researching. But I’m able to connect the dots and get truly inspired when I’m out in nature. I have my best aha-moments while snowshoeing or hiking. I need to step away for all that I’ve absorbed to finally make sense for my life.
Q: You can choose one superpower. What is it?
A: I would definitely choose teleportation. I don’t need to fly I just want to skip the hassle, time and expense that comes with travel. I just want to be there. That would rock my world. Bonus power if I can hold someone’s hand and we can teleport with our luggage together.
Q: What would you tell your 13 year old self?
A: Chill out, take a deep breath, have some fun. It will all be ok.
Q: What would be the title of your memoir?
A: Katie Jurgenson Lee: Struggling to Prove I’m Amazing Since 1986.
Emma Bauer is a Being Geek Chic Contributor. Clearly, she’s got great taste. She is a PR enthusiast, history scholar, tea drinker, fashion devotee, and of course, aspires to Be Geek Chic. Follow her on Twitter: @emmalynnbauer