"Uteruses before duderuses."
It’s possibly Leslie Knope’s most notable moment of genius. And it’s my new motto. Let me explain why…
My life has been a tornado lately. This isn’t some kind of weird Helen Hunt themed Twister metaphor. I truly mean that it is as if a gale force wind invaded my life, threw every single thing I thought I knew about who I was, who I want to be and the life I live day to day and threw it in the middle of a cyclone. When the storm finally passed, I was holding onto the hands of my best friends looking at the chaos and going: “shit, I have to clean this up?”
Lucky for me, I didn’t have to clean it up alone.
Now this is a weird transition, but I’ve been thinking about Catching Fire a lot lately too. I see a lot of myself in Katniss. I can be stupidly stubborn. Relentlessly tough. I will try to go it alone, even when I don’t have to. Let me say that another way: Katniss is always turning away help. IF YOU TURN AWAY HELP, STOP IT. KNOPE WOULD DISAPPROVE.
When you’re watching everything you know flail around you and crash to the ground, it’s scary. It’s easy to turn inward and push everything and everyone out until the noise and the glass and the chaos ends. But don’t do it. Don’t be Katniss. Take your best friends by the hand and cry. And when weird shit happens, like your sex toys end up on the front lawn, laugh with them too. (I’m not saying my sex toys literally ended up on my front lawn, but believe me, it could have.)
My girlfriends saved me. I told them that over and over and over again this last month. Those uteruses are the best things in my life. If you don’t have that - stop reading this - stop trolling Reddit - stop shopping on Think Geek - stop watching Avengers for the 10th time. GO. Make a date with your lady friends. Start talking on the weekly with your good friends. Tell them your secrets. Open up. In time, you will grow closer. And if you see a storm on their radar, take their hand, plant your feet firmly on the ground and be there for them.
I hope I never have to return this favor to my dear friends some day in the future… but I will be there saying, “What would Leslie Knope do?”
Bon Mot I haven’t liked myself very much lately. It’s normal to go through periods of self-reflection and feel like you don’t recognize yourself. It’s important in these moments to remember we are human and loving ourselves is the greatest gift we could give our own heart. Not a manicure. Not a new dress. Not concert tickets. Just acceptance.
Recite This is a nifty website that lets you create some free printable posters with inspirational quotes. Here’s a few I whipped up. That you are free to download and post on your wall.
So, hi. I lost my Papa this week and even though I knew it would happen eventually, there’s nothing quite like the shock of it actually happening. I can’t even pretend to communicate anything useful here. Instead, I’ll share a picture of my lovely Papa in his favorite place and a quote that has helped me immensely these last few days.
This comes from Einstein’s Dreams, which I highly recommend:
"There is a cost to immortality. No person is whole. No person is free. Over time, some have determined that the only way to live is to die. In death, a man or a woman is free of the weight of the past. These few souls, with their dear relatives looking on, dive into Lake Constance or hurl themselves from Monte Lema, ending their infinite lives. In this way, the finite has conquered the infinite, millions of autumns have yielded to no autumns, millions of snowfalls have yielded to no snowfalls, millions of admonitions have yielded to none."
Life is often like Bilbo Baggins’ journey. It’s a bit unorganized. Messy. Riddled with detours. Humans can get hung up on the fact that the journey isn’t a straight and narrow path. Don’t.
Forward. Backward. Left. Right. It doesn’t matter. Your journey is your journey. Go live it. Don’t get obsessed with the “right” direction. It all works out in the end. Just ask Frodo.
I remember hearing once that Larry David, the genius behind Seinfeld and Curb Your Enthusiasm, has never taken a picture. Not once. To me, that was just insane.
Life is so short. And so full of amazing things. It’s so easy to forget that I’ve been lucky enough to travel all over the world and see some of my favorite geeky things up close. And I’m always so happy I took pictures.
Instagram. Go buy a nice DSLR. Or just invest in a decent mirror-less. Whatever it is, just take a few pictures along the way.
Weird how gaming can teach you so much about love. It’s a partnership to stay alive. May I be so bold as to suggest that this statement is applicable to both gaming and life? I think I will be.
Playing video games taught me a thing or two about relationships over the years:
1. Both players should be given a chance to take the lead.
2. Sometimes you must embrace being player 2, even if it does mean following your partner around for hours.
3. Saving the other player may present direct risk to oneself. The key is knowing when it’s worth it.
4. It’s rare for people to “level up” at the same time. Managing these evolving highs and lows is the key to winning.
5. Never turn your sword on your partner. Always remember who the real enemy is.
6. Trust is paramount. Sure, player 1 may be three screens ahead, but you’ll catch up eventually.
7. Rewards should be celebrated together, not independently. It’s a tandem victory and both players contributed to the outcome along the way.
8. It’s OK to screw around every once in a while. Taking your time to peruse a level is the equivalent of stopping and smelling the roses in life.
9. But don’t forget what your mutual goal is. Winning life isn’t everything… nope, I take that back. Winning life is everything.
10. If player 1 screws up, you must forgive. You’d want the same in return.